7 THINGS A MARRIAGE CAN’T SURVIVE WITHOUT
Published Dec 05, 2017
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This is some marriage 101 here, people. There are some things a marriage can not survive without. They must be present for a marriage to grow. The two becoming one is an easy phrase to say but it is quite a process. It is a process of building, plucking and all sorts of things. So I wanted to share with you some necessary ingredients in a marriage. Without these ingredients, forget it. Your marriage can not survive. Without further ado, let’s get into them.
1. Forgiveness
It kent werk if you do not forgive. It just kent. Some people say “I can never ever forgive him/her”. That kind of language is not meant for marriage, Haven’t you heard that marriage is a union between two forgivers? It doesn’t matter whether you are skilled in forgiving or not. You have to forgive then forgive some more. That person you so loved and joined yourself to will hurt you and hurt you some more. So forgiveness is essential!
2. Humility
Permit me to speak “Cameroon”. Wehke! You want to be proud and remain married? It can’t work na.ย Pride is deadly. Pride will stop you from apologising when you should. Pride will stop you from serving your partner the way you should. Pride is not a good thing. That’s why scripture says God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble (James 4:6).
3. Trust
Without trust, a marriage can’t survive. If you are always imagining where your spouse is, questioning their every move and doubting what they say, it is just not good. Lack of trust will make you draw untrue conclusions. Lack of trust can quickly break a marriage.
4. Tolerance
You have to tolerate a lot in marriage. Because living with someone with a different background means they will do things you do not like. What you have to do is tolerate, not constantly try to fix them or make them like you. Sometimes you just have to deal with it. That wife might always be late for an outing. Those socks might always be on the floor.
5. Compromise
Yes, marriage involves compromise. You can not be married and act as a single person when taking decisions. There has to be some compromise. There has to be some letting go so the two can really become one.
6. Sex
Without physical intimacy a marriage can’t survive oo. Couples who make love regularly are happier and healthier. It is important to prioritise sex, not just pursuing it as a necessary evil but truly desiring your spouse.
7. Laughter
Marriage shouldn’t be so serious that every one is stiff-faced and hardly laughing. A good dose of laughter is essential. Even scripture says laughter is good medicine (Proverbs 17:22).
Further reading: 5 Little Ways to Make a Marriage Stronger
Without these essential ingredients, a marriage would barely survive. The bottom line is love goes way beyond a feeling – it is a decision. So when you forgive, are humble, trust, tolerate and compromise, have sex regularly and laugh together, you are choosing love everyday.
Do you have other ideas? What are other things a marriage can’t survive without? Please share below.
To marriages that last!
Well said! Just a little bit of selflessness will go a long way. It’s been a long time Presh. How are you doing?
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Not sure how I skipped this comment.
I’m doing good hun! Thank you for asking.
Not married yet but this was very insightful. I’m taking notes.
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Glad you are, Tega! God bless!
Mummy Prechy! We are learning. Keep the Marriage 101 coming . . .
Glad you are, dear. I sure will!
Hi Precious, I like the way u put things, realy on point. Unselfishness…being selfish/stingy will always cause a barrier between couples
Thanks Pamela!
Being selfish is another thing that could destroy a marriage. Marriage is all about sharing.
Hy Precious, these are really good points and even friendship can’t survive without some of these (trust, communication, forgiveness).
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True, Yvonne. These apply to even everyday relationships.
Thank you so much for all the points ma. Marriage is truly an eye opener to so many things o. God will continue to bless and strengthen your home too.
Amen!
Glad the points are helpful, Roseline.
May God keep our homes.
I’m not married yet Precious but I know from common knowledge that love goes beyond the bubbly butterfly in our stomachs. It’s those factors which you have mentioned that keep a marriage strong. Thank you so much for sharing sister.
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True, Dominika! It goes way beyond the butterflies in the belly. We need to choose love everyday. Thanks dear.
Exactly. You have said it all.
We need to choose love everyday. Even when it seems hard we need to choose love.
Most marriages have broken up because of lack of one or more of the reasons above. Money is another common theme that breaks up marriages but still linked to the above.
Thanks for this.
That’s true, Bisola. Money matters are very important too.
Poor communication, keeping secrets, sometimes this feminism advocacy in a wrong way can be detrimental to marriages.
Thanks Jessica!
I couldn’t have said it better.
Dialogue is also very essential, to hv a free mind n also clear doubt’s.thks for sharing precious
So true, Sylvie!
Communication is life to a marriage.
Thank you for sharing!
Amazing summary. All very, very true. Been there Precious. Been there!
Thanks so much, Gerry! Been there? Still there?