WHY I WILL NEVER BE A MODERN GIRL
Published Nov 26, 2016
Updated Jun 09, 2024
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I have always been a social misfit. I’m not joking. I don’t mean that in a I cannot relate with people kind of way. What this means is that I don’t always seem to fit in whatever society I find myself in. I just don’t fit. Back in my high school days, I wrote an article titled, “real social fitness” that got published in the school magazine. Maybe it was my way of exonerating myself from the “social misfit” cloud that hung over me.
When all my friends were dating and sharing gifts with their boyfriends, I was busy writing poems for them. Who does that? The one time I tried to fit in by partying in my first year at the university, it was so weird. I could feel my salamanda shoes and skimpy skirt begging me to stop. That same year, I met Jesus or rather, Jesus met me. That changed my life completely and my inability to conform intensified. From being the girl with neither swag nor stylish shoes in secondary, to being the girl with no boyfriend in high school, I became an official “church girl”
These days, I no longer meet people in school but on social media. I have discovered that I still do not fit! I have accepted my fate. I will never be a modern “geh”. Here is why:
I need my man
Mr N is not permitted to die. Who is going to pay the bills, fix things around the house or service the cars? I hardly know how those things happen. I am not some Miss Independent who can do it all on her own and needs no man. I am not one who refuses to take her husband’s last name because I want to be viewed as a stong self-sufficient woman. I need my man.
My place is in the kitchen
While my mates are busy chanting, “a woman’s place is not in the kitchen” I am spending/enjoying most of my life in the kitchen. You see why I say I don’t fit? I am not team #wifenotcook. I am team #feedhusbandtillhecanttakeitanymore.
I don’t have Kim K’s body
And I’m not obsessed with having that kind of body either. My backyard is nothing to write to Ntamassen about. I do not have a killer flat tummy. My belly is something far, far away from flat. Thank God for big blouses, which I use to cover the multitude of sins. Ha.
I am not widely travelled
These days I see modern “gehs’ on social media visiting all sorts of places: Bangladesh, Thailand, the Bahamas, Cuba, Dubai, even Ukraine. For me, it’s by the special grace of God that I entered America. And even in this America I almost still live like the contri geh that I am. No sipping pina coladas on the beach with a Prada purse and lamboutine shoes. Is it lamboutine or louboutine?
I have never worn human hair
And I don’t intend to buy any human parts called hair to add to my head. The thought alone scares me. But let me tell you the truth, the prices scare me more. All that money for hair???
I do not dress to kill
On most days, I dress to cover the body. I hardly know what the reigning fashion outfit is. You can still find me wearing things that were en vogue in the early 2000s. In fact, a woman saw me the other day in a store and said my shirt reminded her of something she used to wear in the 90s. And I honestly thought I was being stylish. Chai, I have suffered.
My selfies are not perfect
My selfie game is so not-on-point. I often try to take as many as I can then I give up because for some reason, the camera in my hand cannot produce the picture in my heart. Why?
So for the reasons above, I will never be a modern girl. Do you identify with any of the things I listed? Are you a modern “geh” or modern “boi”?
Lol!
What is the norm anyway? and who decides. In anything we do, as long as we are authentic and happy. Social media presents a view that could be false.
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I think the norm isn’t officially stated but somehow it is evident on social media.
Hahahahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha! Rolling on the floor. This is so so me.
Who get time for di follow fashion. Lamboutine or na louboutine na weti again sef? lol
I am strongly team contri geh. That human hair sha plus the nkap na just headache for check sense.
And then we just add sleeping chop to bread and tea fo breakfast and the list is complete. I enjoyed the piece.
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Lamboutine/louboutine na some kine shoe lol
You see why we just clicked sis? #teamcontrigeh forever.
Precious, this goes to show how original and natural you are. You don’t want to be like someone else. This makes you stand out from the crowd after all most women are going for natural hair now. Most men now are days are looking for natural women not the ones with fake boobs, fake lips, fake butt, fake hair etc. good write up. Got me thinking
Amen and amen. Being naturally you is best. There’s so much freedom when you are not trying to conform to society. Thank you!
Hahahaha!!Best thing i read in ages! And for the record…i hate to read. Your pen sure speaks like your pot sizzles! I am in love with your ink and steam!!! I may not totally relate but yeah “contri geh”, I love your core!??
Awww I feel sooo flattered! Thank you sis!!
Story of my life, except u know what you outline or lamboutine is. I know me Na tambourine wey we de for our performing arts class,????. I have missed this blog so much. Born writer. I hail u dear
Hahaha tambourine!
Angele you haff kee me.
Is it lamboutine or louboutine? My brothers wife once asked me this same question not like she can’t afford she’s a pharmacist but she too said the prices were out of this world lol. There are a lot of people like you we just don’t know most of them.
Those prices are totally out of this world. Sah!
Precious,you actually above standards.You are too good to fit in.You stand out.You are exquisite to behold,unarguably intelligent,glaringly talented and oh your moral values…let me not go there.All the things you described not fitting into are VANITY.The kitchen is not where you belong as a matter of compulsion but a matter of choice and purpose.Again you are ABOVE STANDARDS .I don`t need to be in the prophetic to know you are on your way to greatness.I am in awe of you little sister.
Amen!
I need to print this and put on my wall.
Thank you so much big sis! And that thing you said about the kitchen- so true!
This is my first time commenting on this article but I am a regular visitor and I really like this blog. And this article is so me except the kitchen part cause I don’t like cooking. I thought I am a weirdo but thank God am alone.
Yay for commenting the first time, Fatima!
We are totally members of the association of weirdos.
Hahahahahahaha! Weh no kill me with laugh ya Precious. I can’t take this anymore; my stomach hurts. I’m laughing so hard and everyone around me is asking why? But they cannot understand. I almost died at the “lamboutine or louboutine” part.
I can relate to some of these dear. I always thought I had a problem when i don’t fit, but remember:
“What makes you different, makes you beautiful”
I had a blast reading this post!
Thanks dear
xoxo
N’Graffi – Marry a man, Adopt a baby
Awww I love that quote! What makes you different makes you beautiful. Thank you, sis!
hahahahah oh Lawd! Precious I am laughing so hard this morning. At least you are better than one contri geh here; you know how to wear make up, so you fit some where! Ya sister doesn’t know that one yet. I remember forcing myself to attend ASJUB baptism party in my level 200, don’t ask me how it went cuz it was a disaster. Talking about dressing to kill ah, that what happened to all the straight simple dresses in the market? Ah till tomorrow Kewan will never fit… When other women chant some choruses..this woman is longing to spend more hours in the kitchen. I beg let me not hijack this post dear!
I attended that party too because they said they were going to do roll call. I was totally a fish out of water. Wasn’t funny at all.